The vows of matrimony don’t really mean a lot in Hollywood. It is a place where people follow the dream or infatuation of the moment and even though the high thrill of romance does lead to some very glamorous weddings few marriage actually last longer than a high school prom. (more…)
You suddenly have the weird feeling your woman is cheating on you. Brutal. You don’t have concrete proof, but your gut is screaming at you as if it just ingested a a bad burrito. It happens. People search action elsewhere sometimes, and your girl is no exception to this rule. Of course, just because you’ve got the feeling, doesn’t mean you are correct. Sometimes your own insecurities, no matter how subconscious they are, can manifest themselves in your belly, make a fire, convince you of crazy, untrue things.
But never fear, my man, there is a right way to deal with this situation. First of all, don’t snoop! The old breaking in to the hotmail/gmail/iPhone/Facebook thing is just low. Too low. You won’t feel good after, and chances are that even if she’s not cheating, you’ll end up seeing stuff you don’t want to. And it will sit there in your mind like a crazy man, but you won’t be able to say anything, because you know what you did was WRONG. And if you admit what you did, she’ll have grounds never to trust you again.
Ok, so snooping’s off, so at first you should just wait a bit. Think. Try to pinpoint if it could be some other sort of insecurity that is arising out of a different problem between you two. Observe. Is she suddenly buying new lacy bra things? Hitting the gym extra hard? Constantly distracted? Not up for sex? If so, she definitely might be having sex with someone else. So you’ve got to confront her, but confront is not the right word, it is the wrong word.
You need to sit her down in a non-threatening atmosphere and calmly and rationally explain how you feel. Tell her that her behavior makes you feel as if she might be being faithful and simply ask her to be honest with you about it. Don’t accuse, make it clear you realize you might be way off – you are just asking. You are concerned. Again, calm, rational, sincere are all things you should attempt to be in this case. It’s hard, but if your eyes have the glow of a crazy mofo, I guarantee she’s not going to fess up